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Depression is only able to exist within the density of the physical and mental worlds. In our spiritual selves lies the answer of freedom. Perception is the Key to attitude, our attitude is crucial to our perceptions. The absolute truth about our state of mind all depends on how we Feel about anything. If anyone has a problem with something the first step is an objective evaluation of exactly why it is presenting a problem. Years of analysis can never answer the reasons for a persons state of depression unless the person assumes Control and takes the necessary action to change the situation. The first step is the realization that you Do have Control, You have the Right and the Ability to effect the changes required. The People Pleasing nature of most of us is to endure childhood just waiting for the day that We Have Control over Everything and waking up Depressed at middle age. What we discover is that everything seems to be controlling us. The first time we experience depression is at a very early age when we really have our heart set on something we really want and someone else denies it from us. After this the pattern is set, always someone denying our desires. As children we are subject to virtually absolute control otherwise as we are granted permission to play with fire we might destroy the house and everything in it. It takes a very wise parent who understands how to balance guidance and encourage free choice. I most instances parents demand total subservience or no guidance at all. it is not until we start maturing with a still undeveloped sense of controlling our destiny allowing others to dictate our lives and find ourselves powerless because we have never asserted ourselves. Whether it is a job, a relationship or any area of your life where there a problem that really goes to the heart in a hurtful way the result is hurt and depression. If it can be recognized it must be dealt with. So many times all the person has to do is confront the cause and simply speak out about it. Most people are people pleaser and will make accommodations, most difficulties are not intentional only unknowing. Being confrontational is usually unnecessary, diplomacy, compromise and fairness can usually alleviate almost any situation unless it is intentional. If it is intentional and the situation cannot be worked out it may be time for a big change. I most cases a key blocking element for one or both parties is that of fear. If either party is fearful about what solving the problem will do for the situation it will be a much harder battle. The choice still remains, solve it or suffer. If a person is doing what they feel good about, depression cannot exist. |
